GirlStupid

GirlStupid
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-adjective
1. Normally intelligent female who, although she knows better, lacks common sense when it comes to personal relationships.
2. Is unable to take her own advice. ie. Would advise friends in the same situation to do one thing and then does the opposite when faced with it herself.
She knew the relationship was bad for her, but kept going back and making excuses for him.
She sent him 18 text messages over the course over 2 days, even though she knew it was crazy.
She was suspicious and went through all his things, all the while berating herself for doing it.


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I can't remember how old I was when I came up with GirlStupid, accusing a friend of tolerating way more in a relationship than she ever thought she would or would have advised me to. I think I must have been 18 or so, considering this is when my friends and I made some decidedly poor choices regarding members of the opposite sex.
I suspect that most women have been GirlStupid at one time or another, allowing themselves to set their better judgement and sometimes self-respect at the door in the name of love, or sex, or just plain attention. It always amazes me how confident and intelligent women can give the most sound and common sense advice to everyone else around them but can't make their own good decisions to save their lives. I'm not talking about the big bad things, the women (and men) who have real emotional problems, just the every day bad decisions that, once we are far removed from the relationship, we kick ourselves for.
Example: I have a friend, Jenny. She hadn't been in a relationship for a while and was maybe feeling a little less than self-confident. Until YoungOne came along. YoungOne was selfish and immature and just... Young. But when he gave my smart, beautiful some attention and then stopped calling... well, what's a smart, beautiful girl to do? Call too often. Text too much. Cry over someone who doesn't deserve it. Now, a lot later, she knows where she went from Girl to GirlStupid. Having said that, if YoungOne were to reappear in a weak moment for Jenny... GirlStupid is a very strong and has a long memory.
I have another friend, Eva, who slept with the same guy for two years because she was crazy in-love with him. She overlooked the fact that he was nothing more than a friend in public, and not a good one at that. Eventually, it ended and she was broken up about it and she hated him. Probably still does.
I have way more examples than that, but you get the point. GirlStupid - an epidemic!
And yeah, okay, I've been GS in the past. I can get over the stupid things from the past, what I am worried about is the stupid to come. What if this split brings out not only the GirlStupid, but the GirlCrazy and the GirlDesperate in me?